Summer break is approaching, and many families are excited about sunny days and relaxed routines. But changes in routine can sometimes make children and teens feel worried, stressed or sad. It’s a great time for families to have important talks about mental health.
In 2024, Washington ranked 48th in youth mental health, indicating a higher occurrence of mental illness and lower rates of access to care compared to other states. Mental health matters, and parents and caregivers can help by talking openly about emotions and feelings.
In Whatcom County, 67 percent of 8th-grade and 10th-grade students in 2023 reported having opportunities for prosocial family involvement like talking openly about problems with a parent, participating in fun family activities and being involved in family decisions.
Here are five tips from UnitedHealthcare Community Plan of Washington to help you start a good conversation with the child in your care:
- Choose a Good Time
Find a moment when your child feels comfortable and safe. This might be while you’re taking a walk, driving in the car or cooking dinner together. Picking a relaxed time can help your child open up naturally, without feeling pressured or distracted. - Listen Carefully
When your child shares their feelings, pay close attention. Try not to interrupt or rush the conversation. Let them talk freely, and show you care by looking at them, nodding or saying, “I’m listening.” - Let Them Know Their Feelings Matter
Tell your child it is okay and normal to feel worried, sad or upset sometimes. Let them know their feelings are important and that you understand. Avoid saying things like, “It’s no big deal,” or “You’ll get over it,” because that might make them feel misunderstood. - Remind Them Help is Available
Mental health concerns like anxiety or sadness happen to many children. Remind your child it is common and not their fault. Reassure them that there are ways to feel better, and ask what might help them the most. - Encourage Good Self-Care
Healthy habits help your child feel better overall. Encourage them to eat well, get enough sleep, exercise and do things they enjoy. You can set a good example by practicing self-care yourself because your child learns by watching you.
If you are stuck on where to start, download conversation starter cards to guide you through a productive conversation.
For more resources, visit uhccp.com/washington.
If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org/chat for 24-hour, toll-free, confidential support and prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones. For TTY users, use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
